Un-Follow Me

I have a two-fold desire that drives me to visit and hang out in blogland.
First, I want to tell my story and talk about who I am, what I've been through and what I go through now.  I want to write about recovery from Narcs and all of the steps I have taken, do take and will take on my path of healing.

Second, I want to read what you have to say about your recovery and your experiences, to learn from you and to give you an audience and to be part of something that I think is a wonderful healing tool.

I sort of think of it like a two way street, with traffic headed in both directions. I try to go to every post by readers on my reading list, I try to follow back the URLs that refer to me in my stats and I click through on my 'followers' icons to get to your posts and look at what you have to say because I am interested in what you have to say.  I value your voices.

I keep my blog public because I'm an open and giving person and I don't have anything to hide.  If you choose to keep yours private, that's fine with me.  But if you've followed me and I've followed you and you happen to be one or two of the people embroiled in the recent argument that has just been talked to fucking death, and the end result or decision that you've made is to make your blog private and NOT invite me to it, great.  I'm fine with your decision to do so, and I wish you all the best, truly, I hope that you find what you need to, learn what you need to and heal how you need to.  I'm not so pompous as to think that I need to be a part of your life if you have chosen not to have me in it.  I'm happy for you that you're making decisions based on what you need.

I'd like to make a small point, though.  I don't really care if you see my shit posted here - that's why it's public and that's why I don't moderate comments, even to protect my anonymity.  Anybody can see what I put out here.  If you're going to act like this, though, if you're going to decide that I am somehow the enemy or on the other side of an argument that you've created, to the point that you're privatizing your blog and not inviting me, then un-fucking follow me.  I find it creepy that your icons are still there.

I'm posting this here because I have no other way to get through to you unless you invite me to, and frankly, homey don't play that.

Love,
Vanci